a moment for Donald Aguiar

 

"I like having you as my big brother" - Rain Man

 

 

I have spent the past few days sorting out my thoughts and memories of my brother-in-law Donald Aguiar.  Desiring mostly to touch the hearts of those who knew Donald and the beauty of his presence on this earth.

So I’ve used music and photos and now this writing as I try to convey something that will live beyond a well-written memorial, presenting more of a message that was placed deep in my soul by the thrill of helping a life within this world.

 

All things are shaded gray in comparison to the technicolor view of a brother embracing a brother in a "Rain Man" sort of way, as did Joe Aguiar and Donald  Aguiar, in these past years.

 

Prior to Donald living with our family so many years ago, I thought I knew something of love.

 

No.

 

I found love in the perfection of his forgiving heart. I found love in my heart that was but waiting to be touched by his. This is truly life’s greatest blessing to know and love one so beautiful as Donald Aguiar.

 

I will go to the end of this life eternally grateful for what I had, what I learned from him.

 

It was the best of our 'Aguiar' Family's life, that was, Joe's, Christiana's, Donald's and mine.

 

We experienced a Camelot.  One that will live in our hearts forever.

 

I am eternally blessed because of him.

Turn Up the Music to Give Voice to Your Next Career

 

 Question by Moody Blues



Music has always been a needed part of my life.

Whether listening to rock, soul, opera, folk, jazz or rap, music is a means of release and a tool of expression of feelings and desires for me.

It allows me to step away from the self-limiting boundaries within and open to life's possibilities as a flower does to the morning sun.

One of my favorite bands is the Moody Blues, their music gives freedom to my inner voice. Playing one of their songs like Question often prompts me to the answers that I seek, as does Andrea Boccelli's Sogno (Dream) and Cat Stevens' Morning Has Broken.

There is beauty and freedom and voice in music. It can take us to that other place, that place of possibility, where the waves meet the sand and our answers to complex problems become simpler.

Where limitations within are often quieted, and fresh ideas blossom into a new career strategy or path, and a permission to seek it out abounds.







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The Choice is Yours to Begin Again

Boxer Sugar Ray Leonard Begins Again



"It's not whether you get knocked down, it's whether you get up."
 -Vince Lombardi

 

 

 The Struggle

Are you struggling with an addiction or a personal issue like Sugar Ray and millions of others have?

Can you reach your goals, obtain happiness and find inner peace within its entrapment?

It takes courage to admit that we are powerless over an addiction like alcohol, prescription drugs, nicotine, gambling, eating disorders, substance abuse . . .

 The Support

 

There is freedom in accepting that our lives have been negatively affected by our addictions. But acceptance does not come easy.

Taking an honest look at our addictions with individuals with the same challenges as ours can help.

Helping forums like 12-Step Programs provide a place where self-discovery and supportive healing can begin. 

 The Freedom

Each day in recovery brings us 24 hours of addiction-free living.
 

Tasks that once overwhelmed us like job hunting, resume writing, interviewing, retraining and even work become manageable to us as we embrace a life of wellness, one day at a time.  

 The New Beginning

 

A new day, a new job, a new life, a new happiness awaits us each day in recovery - one day at a time. 

 The Choice Is Yours

The choice is yours to seek help.



  It should be noted that the author of this blog celebrated 30 years in recovery, one day at a time, on November 20, 2012.

 

 

Resources for Help and Referrals:

http://www.211ri.org   
Find helping services, resources and referrals through the United Way 2-1-1 in Rhode Island

http://www.aa.org       
Official site of the Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.

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Reaching Beyond Our Fears to Win or How I Beat My Fear of Public Speaking

"Our Deepest Fear" - Coach Carter

Glossophobia

Glossophobia is a fear of public speaking or speaking in front of others. An estimated *75% of all people experience some degree of anxiety when public speaking.

I'm one of those people.


Fear of Public Speaking Prevents

I lived with a fear of speaking in front of others for most of my life. The thought of public speaking in front of others overwhelmed me to the point of:

1. Canceling an important job interview because of overwhelming jitters
2. Dropping a college course when asked to speak in front of the class due uncontollable anxiety
3. Bowing out early of large dinner parties, weddings and events for fear of having to speak in front of others


I Can't Do It

Throughout life I found myself continually called to speak in front of groups. I was convinced that I could not do it. My immediate response when asked to speak was "I can't", "It's too hard", "It will not work", "I'm not capable", "I'm not qualified", "S/he's better at it than me, so pick her/him".

As time went on, I became so afraid to speak. It held me back from growing into the person that I wanted to be.

However, there came a point when my need to make a difference in other's lives became more important than my internal fear of public speaking.


A Way Out of Fear

I was no longer willing to give in to my fear as I had for many years. I wanted a way out so that I could help others and grow in my career too. This is how I achieved that goal:


1. Study the Experts
I followed anything written by and about Steve Jobs aka "The Master Presenter". I was moved and empowered by his great work. Although, I never met him, I thought of him as a mentor. I read many of his writings that inspired the quieted voice within me to speak boldly, yet simply, and to move beyond my fear of public speaking.

2. Empowered by Books
I read power presentation books like How to Wow: Proven Strategies for Presenting Your Ideas, Persuading Your Audience, and Perfecting Your Image by Frances Cole Jones. This book taught me how to reach beyond my limits when presenting in front of a group.

3. Inspirational Quotes
 I searched online for inspiring quotes and read positive writings by motivational leaders.

4. Encouragement from Others
I received encouraging praise from others that helped move me into a world of empowerment, boldness, happiness,and most importantly, a freedom from fear.


If you had asked me five years ago if I would (or could) speak as a guest on a 6:00 Evening News Program, I would have said:  "I can't", "It's too hard", "It will not work", "I'm not capable", "I'm not qualified", "S/he's better at it than me, so pick her/him".

But, I'm happy to say that I didn't just speak once, but I spoke twice, for two local newscasts. An administrator who asked me to speak said that I "hit it out of the ballpark". Tears still come to my eyes when I recall her words.

Today, I am happy to say that I have found my place in my role as a Career Group Facilitator who speaks daily in front of groups of up to 35 adults in one of Rhode Island's One Stop Career Centers. It is here, and within me, that I was moved to reach beyond my level of comfort and embrace a new world, that of public speaking, which was once an unattainable goal.

May you too reach and attain your goals, whatever they may be.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. You playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others”. -M.Williamson

* wikipedia





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How 'bout those Bruins? How 'bout that Job Search?

After 39 cupless years, the Boston Bruins won

the 2011 Stanley Cup.

"This Is How We Do It"

Score!

Score!   Save!   Win!    Goal!



Your resume & networking skills are winning you the interviews.

39 Cupless Years

You know you are good. You've got it. You've done your homework, practiced, game after game, through intolerable losses and gnawing defeats. You stayed with it through 39 cup-less years.

You still believe, just like you always have, that this is your year.

You know that with every "no" you hear in this tough job market, the closer you are to that final "yes"- when they announce that "the job is yours".

 

It's been some time since you had an interview.

 

So you double-check your game plan:

 

• Is your resume targeted to the employer's needs?

• Are you formatting your resume for strict computer guidelines like "Applicant Tracking Systems" by using the words "Work Experience" and not "Professional Experience" for example, as a heading for your work history on your resume?

• Are you "Paying It Forward" with your network, giving back and volunteering?

• Are you networking with family, friends, former colleagues, alumni, peer to peer networking groups, one stop career centers, local job clubs, professional transition and networking groups?

• How's your 30 Second Commercial or Elevator Speech that will help you to convey who you are and how you can help the companies that you are interested in working for?

• Have you developed a business card to hand out to others when networking?

• Are you searching for companies that need your specialties? Are you looking for a good fit?

• Are you staying current in your field by taking free elearning online like Alison.com?

• Are you learning and updating your computer skills in Word, Excel, PowerPoint and more? Free courses may be available at your local library. Check out Alison.com for free elearning courses too.

• Are you using social media like Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Google to network, promote your offerings, and job hunt too?

• Are you open to contract and temporary work?

• Are you connecting with recruiters to help you find a job?

• How are your interviewing skills? Do you have your "stories" ready of your great achievements from past jobs ready?

• How do you answer "Tell me" and "What if" questions when the interviewer asks them?

• Do you have questions prepared for the interviewer?

• Are you writing thank you letters?

• How are your follow-up skills and negotiation skills?

• Are you focused?

• Do you have a plan of action?

• How are you staying positive?

• Have you called 211 for free referral services for food, clothing, shelter, medical ,financial and other helping needs?

 One Game At A Time

You know that it's not just the "lone goal" that will bring you to cup victory. It's the hard work, the ice time, the grueling practice, the power plays that you've developed that win more games. One game at a time.

 

You have researched employers. Worked hard to customize your resume with your accomplishments that meet the company's needs for the job. Networked. Interviewed. And then did it all over again.

 You Are Practiced

Here you are at the playoffs. You are trying to temper your excitement because you've been here before. You are practiced and give it your all. Despite the odds-you keep going. One game at a time.



You've passed the telephone interview, the 1st, 2nd and 3rd ones too. Your research tells you that there is a "favorite" with inside connections that the company is leaning toward.

You don't give up. You network even more to get that inside edge too.

Winning Performance

You've arrived at Game 7. Your out-of-the-box strategies and game winning performance is what brought you here.



The final interview day is here. You are well-prepared to go the distance with a winning portfolio in hand.

 After 39 Years

After 39 years of hard work, kiss that cup like the Bruins - you win.



You aced the final interview. The long awaited call finally comes in. After all this time , you hear the words that you've been working so hard for -


Congratulations. The job is yours!





Source: wikipedia


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A Proactive Job Search: LET'S GET READY TO RUMBLE!

 

Michael Buffer

 

 

 

Michael Buffer is a boxing ring announcer for HBO. 

 

He is a great example of a personal career brand that works - with his catch phrase "Let's Get Ready To Rumble"  and the way he rolls certain letters and adds inflections when announcing fighters' names.

 

Although he was raised on a bus driver's income by his foster parents, his brand has made him over $400 million.

A Proactive Job Search

100's of Applications

Applying to 100's of job postings with not even one response?

Can I make a suggestion?

Stop it.

At least for the next few moments while we look at a more proactive approach.

 

  

Break Free of High Unemployment Rates

When you only apply to advertised job openings, you are competing with the 8-12% and more of unemployed job seekers that are applying for the same positions.

 

 

Get Out of the Resume Heap

Being proactive by searching for companies that need your skills, including companies with a hiring freeze on, gets you out of the resume heap, and on your way to being found.

 

 

 

Stand Out

Before you conduct your search, know yourself and your offerings. What makes you stand out from all the rest of the job candidates? What are you the 'go to pers' for on the job?

 

 

Know the Competition

Use LinkedIn’s Advanced People Search to scan your competition’s qualifications.

See how you measure up. Note the skills that you shine in, and the ones that you need to work on or around.

 

 

Find & Follow

Now that you have a handle on your special offerings, use LinkedIn to search for companies that might benefit from your specialized skills.

Search for targeted companies using keywords, industries, location etc. 

Review Company Profiles that appear in your search and follow the ones that look like good prospects.

Also take a look at each company's competitors and consider applying to them or use their information when preparing cover letters, resumes and interviews.

 

 

Who Do You Know?

Once you follow the company, take a closer look at their LinkedIn Company Profile and the employees that work for them.

Check the list of company employees and see if there is anyone that you or your connections know.

Continue to network to find out more about the company and to get introduced or referred.

 

 

Use the Backdoor

Join up to 50 Groups on LinkedIn that are related to your specialization. This is where the conversations that you need to engage in are happening.

Recruiters and employers frequent these groups for candidates. Join the conversation, engage and connect with others.

 

 

Explore Opportunities

Tailor your resume and a cover letter to opportunities that interest you. 

List your job accomplishments that relate to the industry/company/field/position that you are seeking.

Show how you will make money or save money for their company if they hire you.

 

 

What's In It For Them?

Answer this question with positive offerings, great timing, the right connections, and a great fit, and you just may be headed for your next job.

 

 

 

Source/Credit:

Unlock The Hidden Job Market by Duncan Mathison and Martha I. Finney

10 Steps to an Authentic, Magnetic Personal Brand by Meg Giuseppi at executivecareerbrand . com

The Power Formula for LinkedIn Success by Wayne Breibarth

Wikipedia: Michael Buffer

 

 

 

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Will Your Resume Stand Out in a Stack of 100's?

What Makes You Stand Out From All the Rest?
 

Sitting in a Stack of 100's

Your resume is sitting in a stack of 100's. Why should the hiring manager choose yours?

It all begins with you.
 

That Special Something

 

What is that special something that you have that makes you stand out from all the others in your field?

Define the skills, achievements and talents that have made you shine on the job.

Then promote these great offerings to companies that need your specialties.



Not Just Any Job
 

For example, imagine that you are a customer service rep who applies to any customer service rep job that you see advertised online.

Instead of applying to just any job, consider these tips as well:

• Isolate and define the skills and the achievements in your career history that show where you really excel on the job

• Search for employers that need your specialized offerings

• Apply to those companies, whether they have a job posted or not (apply even if they have a hiring freeze on)

Break It Down

For example, let's say you are applying for customer service jobs in banking because that is the job that you have experience in.

Break down your work experience further and show where your special talents lie. This will help to make you more valuable and marketable to specific employers who need your special skills.


 

Your Best

After a close review of your career history, you now find that your best work shines through as follows:   

• Answered 100's of calls daily within a fast-paced banking environment
• Consistently exceeded cross-selling quotas month after month
• Recognized as last year's "#1 Turnaround Performer" for winning back lost customers
• Earned awards of excellence by applying specialized skills while working for former companies

You Are Valuable

Do you see how valuable you would be to a company by promoting your specialized talents, the ones that select companies really need, on your resume?

Showing how you have performed in positive ways, how you made money and saved money for past employers, shows prospective employers that you will do it for them too.



Just By Being You

How can you stand out in a stack of 100's of other resumes?

• Define your talents, your specializations and your great offerings
• List and quantify your accomplishments on your resume to show how you made a remarkable difference by applying them while working for past employers
• Apply to companies that need these specializations
• Customize your resume to meet each company's needs

And stand out from all the rest, just by being you.

Source/Credit:

Unlock The Hidden Job Market by Duncan Mathison and Martha I. Finney

10 Steps to an Authentic, Magnetic Personal Brand by Meg Giuseppi at executivecareerbrand.com

Resources:


Explore Careers: www.myskillsmyfuture.com     www.my.nextmove.org     www.EmployRI.org

Find a One Stop Career Center Near You:  www.careeronestop.org

Find a One Stop Career Center in Rhode Island: www.netWORKri.org

Information and Referrals to Helping Resources:   www.211.org





Disclaimer:

The opinions expressed in this post and on this site are mine. They are not affiliated with the Rhode Island Department of Labor & Training, netWORKri or any other company.

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Extraordinary Support from "Ordinary" People

Finding Forester

Job search is filled with seemingly endless "No's", until we get to that final "Yes, the job is yours".

Every "no" that job search brings us, can disrupt our belief in ourselves and our job qualifications.

Sharing insights, wins and losses with an open and supportive person, can lift our injured spirits and  refresh us with a positive perspective to drive our search again.

It takes courage and heart to perform a 21st century job search.

 It takes heart and courage to support a job seeker as well.

Find extraordinary wisdom and support from "ordinary" people like peers, family, mentors and friends, who can enrich your spirit and job search efforts too.

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You Who Perserveres

 

Amazing.  You, who perseveres through . . .

• the most difficult job market since the 1930’s

• losing your job and related identity

• the stages of unemployment: denial, confusion, anger, depression, acceptance

• the rejection that goes along with job hunting

• learning a whole new way to job search

• embracing targeted resumes, keywords and applicant tracking systems

• the art of networking and the hidden job market

• career change and skill upgrade

• going back to school

• telephone, Skype, behavioral, situational, case, panel interviews

• writing samples and project proposals
 

• targeting companies and customizing your resume for each one
 

• 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th interviews
 

• computers, the Internet, SmartPhones, apps, texting, social media, LinkedIn, Twitter, Facebook
 

• age, disability, gender, cultural, economic, racial,  and “unemployment” discrimination
 

• credit and background checks

• aptitude, personality, proficiency, production, multitasking tests

• family pressure

• minimal income

• debt problems

• downsizing or loss of home

• family tuition issues

• lack of medical and dental benefits

• isolation from friends

• social stigma

 

 

 

Yes, you are amazing and have proven to be . . .

• confident

• driven

• adaptable

• ambitious

• achievement-oriented

• tenacious

• persistent

• proactive

• intelligent

• focused

• motivated

• influential

• competitive

• goal-oriented

• multitasking

• effective

• analytical

• enterprising

• flexible

• well-informed

• collaborative

• networked

• strategic

• practiced

• skilled
 

• connected

 

 Amazing.  Courageous. Inspiring.

 

 

 

You.

 

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"You are Fired!"

  

I was Fired

Have you ever heard those words directly or been "let go" from a job?

I have - not fun.

 

It happened right out of accounting school. After graduation, I landed an accounting assistant position in a medical facility. I was so happy and excited about the position. 

Within eight months time, I was fired.  

"We're Going In A Different Direction"

 

 

My reason for being fired and the agency owner's reason for letting me go were very different. They said they were "going in a different direction" but actually had someone training for my position right along side me a few weeks prior.

 

Feeling the Feelings

 

I physically left that position the day that I was let go, but I remained emotionally tied to it for some time after that. 

 

I found myself ruminating daily about what I could have done differently. I was often overwhelmed with negative self-talk.

 

As hard as I tried, I could not remove the feelings of rejection, hurt and anger that I had internalized from the experience.

 

Asking for Help

 

It took time for me to heal, but I didn't do it alone. I received much love from family and friends.

 

I also sought the help of a personal coach who guided me through this experience and the feelings attached to it.

 

Within weeks I gained an understanding of the feelings that I was going through - frustration, failure, rejection.

 

 

New Insights

 

Emerging from this negative experience turned into a positive one. As a result, I gained new insights about who I am and where I wanted to go in my career.

Positives

 

Here are some positives that I learned from the experience and that are still with me today:

 

• We are not a mistake.
• The only mistake we can make is mistaking that for the truth.
• We went through everything we need to, to become who we are today.
• It is easy to be negative about past experiences.
• Growth comes when we look at our experiences and gain a new and accepting perspective.
• Hurtful experiences, like being let go, are opportunities for us to reach higher levels of growth in our careers, as well as, personally in our life and loves.

 

 

Reinventing

Did I eventually move on and grow from being fired?

Yes.

Losing my accounting position ended up to be a good thing, because that experience gave me the chance to reinvent myself and use my transferrable skills to gain a position in the employment and staffing field.

After a few years experience, I transitioned to the Principal Employment & Training Interviewer position for the State of Rhode Island, Department of Labor and Training, that I hold today.

I have worked for a Fortune 500 corporation, as well as, private and non-profit companies, but I have never served under and among a more passionate, dedicated, and professional team and organization as I have for the past 25 years as a team member of Rhode Island's One Stop Career Centers.

The department, each One Stop Career Center, and each team member have taught me and continue to teach me so much. Their knowledge, innovation and passion are immense.

I grew from this experience in a very profound way. I have found my place.  

 

An Opportunity to Grow

My hope within this writing is that you not only identify with the feelings of being let go, but that you also hear my joy that exists in the position that I hold today.

I wish for you a wonderful journey, as you join me, in taking this opportunity to grow.




Resources:


Explore Careers: www.myskillsmyfuture.com     www.my.nextmove.org     www.EmployRI.org

Find a One Stop Career Center Near You:  www.careeronestop.org

Find a One Stop Career Center in Rhode Island: www.netWORKri.org

Information and Referrals to Helping Resources:   www.211.org





Disclaimer:

This opinions expressed in this post and on this site are mine. They are not affiliated with the Rhode Island Department of Labor & Training, netWORKri or any other company.

This Is What It's All About

 

 

My daughter and I - 2002

 

Are You "Unemployed" ?

 

 

Steve Jobs, CEO, Apple and Pixar Animation

Stanford University, Commencement Speech, 2005

 

Steve Jobs Talks About Getting Fired From Apple In His Speech

"I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me.  

The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything.  

It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life."  

-Steve Jobs, Stanford University, Commencement Speech, 2005.

 

Feeling Stuck

Feeling stuck and hopeless are feelings that many of us go through when we experience unemployment and career change.

Giving Up

It can also bring feelings of frustration, tiredness, avoidance, fear, boredom, and isolation.

Taking On The Label

Some of us take on the label of being unemployed .

Our badge of honor, as a worker filled with skills, accomplishments, and awards, is now clouded by being unemployed and the badge of shame that it casts upon our life.

Breaking Free

Breaking free of  the unemployed label takes courage and strength.

But it is that courage that will reward us with increased confidence, a new perspective, a fresh start and a bright self image.

The kind that is needed to see the best in ourselves, beyond the limitations that being unemployed often brings.

Moving Forward

Beginning to reconnect with family and friends, the ones that really care, is a good place to start.

Surrounding ourselves with positive people that can inspire us to see our unique qualities of greatness will move us forward too.

Consider meeting new people, in a structured networking group, job club, or a career transition group. These groups are often guided by career coaches who are well-versed in career change, guidance and job development.

Individuals who are also going through a career change attend these groups. They talk about their career setbacks and achievements with an openness to listen and to help others reach their goals as well.

 

Begin Again

Trusting in life and people again comes slowly. But it comes.


Begin in a trusting environment where:

• Your presence is welcome
• A smile inspires you to stay and hear more
• You feel like it's okay to be silent or talk depending on how you feel
• Peers who have also experienced career setbacks talk about their feelings, challenges and wins
• An ongoing and detailed plan of action is encouraged, rather than quick fixes
• Your self-confidence, measurable goals & a career focus evolve the more you attend
• Powers you up to move forward: to create a resume and a personal brand; conduct a proactive job search; learn current interview, networking, social media skills; obtain job leads & more.
• Helps you to see the positive behind every no in your job search and motivates you to continue to move forward, beyond the label of being unemployed
• Empowers you to look at alternative careers and suggests skills and strategies that will help you to reach your career goals
• Guides you as you restore your confidence and encourages you as you begin your new career

May you find just the right inspiration as you
discover the wonderfully transitioning you.

 

Source:   

stanford.edu: commencement speech video & quoted script

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NBC, WJAR-TV, Turn to 10, Mario Vollario Reports, "Unemployed Help Each Other Find Jobs"

 

"Unemployed Help Each Other Find Work"

 

 

NBC, WJAR-TV, Channel 10, Turn to 10

Story Reported by News Anchor & Reporter, Mario Volario:

 

"Unemployed Help Each Other Find Jobs"

Mike Mistretta manages the new Tom's Market in Tiverton.

His journey to the grocery aisle came through the unemployment line.

"Very depressing," he said.

He was doing all the right things.

"Did some job search, send out resumes, cover letters," Mistretta said.

Little did he know the secret to his success would be connecting with others who were also unemployed.

He met them at a peer networking group at netWORKri's West Warwick location.

"They need career advising. They need workshops that we put on.

But they need each other even more," said Kathy Aguiar of netWORKri.

"What I liked about the group is as depressed as you could be, it brought you up.

We helped each other trying to find a job," Mistretta said.

Aguiar said the key to finding jobs is being aggressive and innovative in showing employers

you have what they need.

"Speak to the employer. How can they grow business for the employer? What is the return

on investment for the employer?" she said. "It's a very challenging job market right now.

We need to think out of the box."

And what better way to find out about jobs that are out there than from others who are looking.

Barry Fontaine has been unemployed for almost a year. The peer networking group has become an

integral part of his job search.

"Just being able to bounce ideas off other people, like you would in a normal profession when you

were working," Fontaine said.

"You had to be able to bring something to the table every week. Had to bring names, something that

might help somebody at the table," Mistretta said.

It worked for Mistretta. Fontaine happened to know a woman who knew someone who does the hiring at

Tom's Market. It made Mistretta one of the group's success stories and inspiration for others.

"The numbers are scary out there. But people are going out there, getting jobs," Fontaine said.

Mistretta gave this advice, "You can't wait for the phone to ring, can't wait for the computer to

spit out a meeting time. It doesn't work."





Credit and Source: NBC, WJAR-TV, Channel 10, Turn to 10, May 18, 2012, Story Reported by News Anchor & Reporter, Mario Volario: "Unemployed Help Each Other Find Jobs".





Blog Author's Note: It should be noted that all 24+ job seekers have secured employment, one in training, since the airing of this Turn to 10 report.

 

Just Gimme The Dirt

Has anyone ever said to you "Forget the details, just gimme the dirt"?

Gimme the Dirt

Many employers and recruiters are not asking you for permission to conduct their background searches on you.

According to Diane Crompton and Ellen Sautter, authors of Find A Job Through Social Networking, employers and recruiters are conducting "unofficial background checks" by searching sites like LinkedIn and Google to see what kind of information, positive or negative, appears on you.

Results of these recruiter and employer searches often expose personal information that may be better left private. Examples of information that may be discovered from these online searches are former offenses, lawsuits, controversial topics, embarrassing news articles and public record details, contradictions to your resume, etc.

Spot Checks

It's a good idea for job seekers, in fact all of us, to be proactive and conduct our own online searches.

Crompton and Sautter suggest going to www.google.com, (other search engines like Bing and Yahoo can also be searched in the same way) and type your full name into the keyword search field.

Type quotation marks around your name, "John Smith", for more targeted search results.

The state you live in and/or a company you worked for may also be added by typing + in your search criteria, "John Smith" + RI + "Sanford, Inc.".

They further suggest to not only search Google text, but also search images, news, video, and blogs within Google for more online self-discovery.

Coming Clean

If your online search shows negative information, the authors offer excellent tips:

• Post a great deal of new information online.         
• The new and positive information will override the old ones.
• If you or a friend posted the negative information, then delete it.
• Take no action to hide or delete the information.
• Hire the service of a professional reputation management company like http://www.reputationdefender.com/ to clean up your online reputation.

The Internet is such a wonderful, and free, tool for promoting a positive career image for each of us.

Enjoy it. And happy cleaning!

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Just Get A Job? Have You Walked In My Shoes Lately?

(The Doctor - A Movie Clip) An inspiring story about a doctor who becomes a remarkable  surgeon after becoming a patient with cancer.

 

"You Have To Let It Go"

How many times have you heard "you have to let it go" or "just get a job" since your separation from your last position?


And as hard as you try, you just can't "let it go" or "get a job".

Supporters Mean Well

Certainly your supporters mean well. But "letting go" is a process and it takes time. It's not something that can be turned on and off like a water faucet just because someone wishes it for you.


Especially when you find yourself having to let go of something that is so much a part of you like a child who is now going off to college, the end of a cherished relationship, the death of a loved one, or the loss of a job.


Feelings are often compounded when we are forced into a separation, a lay off, a company closure or a termination.


Consider the following and share them with your supporters if you think they might be helpful.

Job Loss is a Loss

How do you respond when you are are asked:

Who are you?
 

What do you do?
 

Here are my answers:

I'm a mom.
 

I'm a Career Advisor.

 

Many of us have worked for decades and suddenly lose our jobs. Whether it's one day or 30 years of time working for a company, job loss is a loss and very often a loss of our identity.

 

Stages of Grieving

Dr. Elizabeth Kubler Ross states that there are stages to grieving, as in grieving the loss of a loved one, which can sometimes take up to two years.

And a loss, like a job loss, may effect our identity and our claim of who we are to the world. Grieving a loss is like the death of a loved one - just as the loss of a job can be.

One who has just lossed their job may feel no grief at all. Another's grief process might be the opposite and quite substantial in duration.

The duration and intensity vary with each individual.

Just Get A Job?  Have You Walked In My Shoes Lately?

Before you speak and advise a person who is unemployed to just get a job, consider this, have you walked in their shoes recently?

Job finding in the 21st century is much different than it was in the 80's and 90's.

Advancements in technology, an over abundance of job seekers and the new ways that companies and recruiters are finding job candidates are changing for both blue collar and white collar job seekers all the time.

New Methods & Challenges

Resume writing has changed. Many career experts advise job seekers to throw away their resume reference books, if the books are more than two years old.

A job candidate can have a perfect resume to the human eye. But if applicant tracking computer systems are being used by a company or recruiter to select the best candidates for the job, the perfect resume may never get read.

Career experts like Phil Rosenberg, www.recareered.com, writes that many people think that only "big" companies are using applicant tracking computer systems to select resumes of qualified candidates that they receive. But they are "wrong". 

"Today, even Mom and Pop businesses use Microsoft Office for the basic tools in an applicant tracking system. They aren’t just for the big guys anymore. Applicant Tracking Systems are used by the majority of employers today, employers of all sizes (large and small), in all industries, professions, at all levels, profit, non-profit, government, education, and healthcare. ATS's are used to evaluate candidates in all industries, for all job functions, and at all levels. If you think applicant tracking systems only apply to someone else and don’t apply to you … you’re wrong", - writes Phil Rosenberg. 

It has been common resume writing practice to use select noun and noun phrases called keywords, that often improve an applicant's chance of having their resume selected, by an applicant tracking system, as a viable candidate for the job.  

However, some ATS's are so sophisticated that just inserting words like Customer Service in your resume, because the job description states that it is a requirement for the job, may not be enough to get your resume selected by the computer.

Some of these systems are looking for specific information like: What is your level of proficiency in Customer Service? Is it knowledge based or derived from your work experience? At what company did you use this skill and for how long?

 These are just a select  few of the challenges that an unemployed job seeker faces in a 21st century job search.

 

 Want to Help?

• Be there for them

• Encourage them to talk

• Listen & empathize - while giving no cliches or quick solutions

• Help them to recall their work achievements.

• Pass along a job lead to them

• Write a Letter of Reference and/or a Recommendation on LinkedIn for them

• Personally hand-deliver their resume and recommend them for the position

"Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply" -Stephen R. Colvey

Source/Credit:

Why Almost All Employers Use An Applicant Tracking System" by Phil Rosenberg at www.recareered.com

 The 24-Step Modern Resume by Lisa Vaas at www.theladders.com

          Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross at www.wikipedia.com

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Changing Setbacks Into Comebacks

J. K. Rowling's Commencement Speech at Harvard University (Part 1), 2008

 

What is a Setback

At some point in life, each one of us will experience a personal or professional setback. Dictionary.com defines setback as "an unanticipated or sudden check in progress; a change from better to worse."

Life events like unemployment, divorce, debt, scandal, sickness, the death of a loved often bring on adversity, great challenges, struggles - setbacks.

I experienced my first setback at a young age. You may be experiencing a setback too. Know that you are not alone as I share this story with you.

The Setback

The first year of high school was a struggle for me. My family was in crisis and I was in survival mode. I was being bullied by some seniors. And the wrong crowd started looking very appealing to me.

My freshman grades were poor, in fact, I failed Algebra and I was on my way to failing it again. I was unable to comprehend much of the college preparatory lessons that my teachers were teaching me because of the emotional turmoil that I was experiencing.

Sophmore year arrived and it was time to visit my high school guidance counselor to discuss my plan of action for college. She said she only had a few minutes for "someone like me".

Mrs. M. met with me and said, "Hear these words: you are going nowhere in life".  My heart dropped while my pride held back the river of tears that would soon follow me home.

She then stood up, walked to the entranceway, and said it again, "You are going nowhere in life, not with these grades, that attitude, those friends...nowhere! "

 I rose to my feet, looked her in the eyes and said, "I'll show you."

Making A Comeback

I was not serene, by any means. I was fueled with anger from her words and driven to prove her wrong. But I did not let my anger beat me. Instead, I channeled my feelings and allowed them to propel me to new heights through steps like these:
 

• Focused on my dreams and goals


• Saw obstacles as opportunities to grow


• Expected a win, in some form, every day


• Found positive and like-minded friends 


• Embraced a wide range of intellectual, motivational and spiritual mentors


• Recreated "me" by reading the writings of great contributors like Margaret Mead, Ph.D.,  Robert R. Carkhuff, Ph.D, Bernard G. Berenson, Ph.D., Helen Keller, Ph.D., Rabbi Harold S. Kushner, Ph.D., D.D., Betty Friedan, Ph.D., Archbishop Fulton Sheen, Ph.D., D.D. and learning the lessons of great teachers like Kenneth R. Levy, Shirley M. Testa,  Robert Gee, Leon J. Sybielski, Kathryn M. Walsh and my loving mother


• Didn't just think "outside the box", but got rid of the box all together


• Smiled and improvised


• Embraced change


• Asked for help


• Shattered fear, daily


• Learned the lessons


• Helped others

Personal & Professional Fulfillment

Joy, passion, confidence and personal fulillment followed me into my senior year and life. Naysayers like Mrs. M were no longer an issue.

Positivity, joy, passion, confidence and personal fulfillment rewarded me with:
 

• High honor academic achievements in my latter years of schooling


• A successful career as a Fortune 500 Corporate Executive


• A 25-year career as a Career Advisor and Workshop Facilitator for a One Stop Career Center for the State of Rhode Island that I still hold today

But the biggest achievements that I have realized in my professional life have been offering support and guidance to others in the form of encouragement, hope, empathy, inspiration and positivity.

Guiding individuals to embark on the opportunities that await them - beyond their present challenges - helping them to reconnect with the workforce that may have hurt them - motivating them to reach for the possibilities and ventures that await them - impacting the lives of others as so many had done for me.

These are the gifts that I received in my comeback to me.
 

Begin Your Comeback

In the wake of crisis, it is hard to see opportunity.

But begin and take small steps to:  

• inner reflection


• character strengthening


• outside inspiration


• connect with mentors


• build a network of people that care

And be prepared for your life to unfold in a wonderful way.



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Where Are You on the Unemployment Rollercoaster?

 The Unemployment Rollercoaster

 Job Loss Stages

 

Where are you on the Unemployment Rollercoaster?

A. Place an X where you are now on the roller coaster.

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The Experience of Unemployment, by Dr. Norm Amundson and Dr. Bill Borgen, Counselling Psychology Department at the University of British Columbia, 1984

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Extensive Research

"Over the past several years, extensive research has been conducted on the experience of unemployment by Dr. Bill Borgen and Dr. Norm Amundson from the Counselling Psychology Department at the University of British Columbia.

After interviewing hundreds of people, they developed a model outlining the various emotional stages that many of those individuals reported experiencing after losing a job (see above):

 

The Study Showed

The study showed that being unemployed is often described by people as an emotional roller coaster, where we feel unbalanced and experience the highs and lows of looking for a new job.

The job we lost may have been a great source of friendship and personal fulfillment and may have added to our sense of identity.

Losing a job can be a crisis. Studies have indicated that when ranking stressful experiences, losing a job places fourth after personal injury, death of a family member and divorce.

Grieving Process

Unlike other transitions, there is little support or validation for the feelings associated with being unemployed. If there is no opportunity for immediate re-employment, an unemployed person may go through a grieving process similar to that associated with other great losses.  

Unique Reactions

According to the researchers, each person's situation and reaction to unemployment is unique, yet there are many similarities that most of us experience.

As shown in the graph on Job Loss Stages, these reactions include: the initial shock, anger and denial phase (A), where we may not believe that we are actually out of a job (especially if we are fired or let go suddenly), followed by worry and anxiety (B) over what we will do next.  

 

Acceptance

After some time, most people begin to "accept" the situation and gear up to look for another job. At this point, we may feel hopeful and optimistic about our chances of getting another job. We are on the crest of the rollercoaster (C).  

 

Emotions Fluctuate

Depending on the response we get from potential employers, our emotions will fluctuate, alternating between depression, elation, fear, eagerness. anger, thankfulness, desperation, hope and frustration (D).  

Giving Up

Finally, if the job hunt is unsuccessful over a long period of time, some of us will "burn out" and feel apathy and a sense of despair. Sometimes we may even give up the search (H).

Breaking Negativity

Breaking the negative cycle of unemployment and avoiding burnout is difficult, however, if we allow ourselves to be optimistic (E), reach out for support and make use of the resources and training programs that are available to us (F), we may find that the very next interview lands us the job we want (G).  

THE COPING BRIDGE (E)

The rough waters of unemployment can leave us feeling like castaways.


Here are some basic lifesaving techniques that, if applied, can help us cross the bridge to a more manageable and positive way of coping with our job search.  

Family

Discussing our situation with our family and letting them know how we feel and finding out how they feel will help us stay more connected and less alienated.  

 

Friends

Friends can prevent us from feeling lonely. They can help us with our job search and give us emotional support.  

 

Job Search/Support Groups

There are job finding clubs and programs in every state. These programs can help us maintain a sense of purpose, optimism and teach us the most up-to-date job hunting skills.

Such groups are available though local one stop career centers, libraries, employment agencies, colleges, universities and social service agencies.  

 

Positive Thinking

Rewarding ourselves for things we have done well instead of blaming ourselves for things that are out of our control is critical.

Not getting hired for a job has generally very little to do with who we are but rather is related to the needs of the employer.  

Career Changes/Retraining

Listing our skills and reviewing our strengths is very important in identifying the kings of jobs that we can do and the kind of training we may need to take in order to remain competitive.  

Job Contacts

Staying in touch with our network of contacts is key.

Going to interviews for information on companies will keep us in tune with possible openings within various companies--many of which are never advertised.  

 

Survival Jobs

These may help us pay the bills and keep us in the working world while we continue to look for something more satisfying.  

 

Volunteer Work

Volunteer work is an amazing way to learn new skills, offer our talents and improve our self-esteem. When we volunteer, we make contacts and see new opportunities.  

 

Do the Little Things

Do all the things that you have been saving for a rainy day--it gives us a sense of accomplishment that will add to our positive outlook.  

 

Exercise

Exercise helps us to relieve stress and maintain a positive attitude.  

Reduce Financial Pressure

It's important to communicate with our family and creditors to agree on a financial plan which will help reduce expenses.


 

TECHNIQUES FOR COPING WITH UNEMPLOYMENT
STAYING POSITIVE seek support from family & friends join a job finding club register with employment agencies/union hiring halls
KEEPING CONNECTED volunteer for a charity, school or any agency that needs help tell people that you're looking for work ask friends and associates for leads and suggestions
FEELING GOOD work out eat healthy foods be creative--hobbies, creating writing, etc.
STAYING COMPETITIVE explore new career options investigate re-training possibilities

       

OUT OF WORK, BUT WORKING HARD

Job hunters who treat looking for work like a full-time job are usually the first to find employment. Here are some tips: Decide what you want to accomplish each day. List the calls you want to make, the people you want to see and the paperwork (resumes, cover letters) you want to complete. Set the alarm at the usual time, get up, get dressed and get started. Stick to your goals for the day. Follow up leads, call companies from the Yellow Pages, (LinkedIn, Google,) re-contact employers you called three months before. Get out of the house. Go to a (one stop career center) or a library to check out (jobs and career resources). Meet a friend for coffee and an encouraging word. Keep up the exercise and healthy eating--A healthy image makes a good first impression. If you used to meet your friends every Friday night, keep it up. You need the night out and you may hear about a hot job tip.

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